I grew up in Memphis, Tennessee, a city famous for its place in black history.
The Lorrain Motel where Dr. Martin Luther King was fatally shot stands somber in downtown Memphis. It's now home to The National Civil Rights Museum. It's a sobering and ever-present reminder of deep-seated injustice. On Sunday afternoons, my family often visited the museum. It always felt wrong to me that history of such gravity was something we “visited” instead felt the weight of in our own modest (but still inherently privileged) lives.
Inside the National Civil Rights Museum, there is an exhibit of a 1960's bus. There is an audio simulation of Rosa Parks and her famous seat-guarding protest. I always felt profoundly affected by this exhibit and by her act of self-respect. I was (and still am) in awe of her bravery. Somehow, her story was a little more relatable than the black and white photographs on the walls. It's likely I was sensing a deep shared feminine experience— despite gaps in time, place, advantage, and skin color.
There have been countless displays of overt disrespect recently. There have been just as many pleas for justice. I wonder now what my role is, as a mother, a women’s health professional, and a citizen.
I always romanticized the 60's and 70's as a time of great energy and social engagement. But there is always time and opportunity to shift humanity closer to equality.
Sometimes, though, thinking about where to start feels overwhelming.
So, let’s start at the beginning: birth.
The Harvard School of Public Health has recently published some alarming disparities in black women's childbirth experience.
The Harvard article mentions that doctors often, “treat (young, black, pregnant) girls like props, without agency in their own care”.
This is unacceptable.
Everyone deserves respect. Everyone deserves to be informed in their own decisions. Especially when it comes to their health and their baby’s health.
Let's help each other be mentally, physically, and emotionally supported in birth.
Let’s teach each other how to be advocates for ourselves. Before, during, and after childbirth.
During the birth of my son, I felt a wave of deep internal strength. I have since drawn upon to stand up for myself and, in small ways, women’s rights. I’ve stood up for friends who were belittled by male doctors. I’ve been a witness in a court case involving domestic violence. I make time for my best gal pals every week.
The US Congress called Rosa Parks "the mother of the freedom movement”. We can all follow her example.
If you work in a setting where you see someone receiving unequal treatment because of their gender or skin color, pretend you are Rosa Parks. Be a presence for good.
If you see someone treating people with fairness and compassion, be an active witness. Acknowledge it.
It’s easy to cave in to the convenience of only caring for the small bubble of our own familiarities. We are more than mothers of our biological offspring. We are raising the future and we can deliver change.
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